He’s looking at porn.

You can’t stop crying.

What if everything you believed about your life isn’t true? I’ve been there.

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It’s time to break the silence. Too many marriages succumb to this well-kept secret. Mine did. For 25 years. I believed we had a happy marriage.

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No holding back

As heard on Focus on the Family: Dave and I talk openly about his porn addiction and what we did next.